Top 10 Flirting Basics

Most African societies tend to dictate that women should allow men to make the first move. However, in most cases women are actually the ones that choose their man by using subtle gestures to indicate their interest thus encouraging the man to make that oh so important first move. This is why it is quite important to know a few flirting basics that will indicate your availability to a man and make him like putty in your hands.

Essentially flirting is using your conversation and body language to indicate a romantic interest towards a particular man. Careful though, it's best not to use your flirtatious charms on men that you have no interest in, not only would that be cruel but it could get you into a terrible fix if the man ends up thinking you are available to him. Trust me, only use this potent tips on men you want hanging around you. So what are the top 10 flirting basics?

10. Look the best you can be. To be able to flirt effectively you need to be confident and comfortable in your own skin and when you look good you feel good! Just as women are attracted to alpha males that ooze masculinity men are very attracted to femininity. Dress like a lady, that is, pretty skirts and dresses rather than baggy jeans and tops. Put on a touch of lipstick and some perfume. Also it’s important to have interesting accessories like earrings or hair clips that will make him comment on them or want to touch. All the above would make you attractive to men and give you the confidence to act flirtatious around your love interest.

9. Wear high heeled shoes. These are the best kind of shoes to get a man’s attention when walking and they also act like a very good flirting prop when seated. To use them flirtatiously cross your legs and dangle one heeled shoe on the tip of your toes. Slowly and seductively let your leg swing up and down while having a conversation with him. This will definitely catch his attention.

8. Mirroring. In order to establish a connection with him and make him trust you try and copy his body language while talking to him using a technique called mirroring. Watch his body movements and after a few moments do the same. For example if he leans forward to talk to you, do he same. If he speaks quickly and excitedly do the same. If he smile you smile, he laughs, you laugh…get the picture? Word of warning: Only mirror positive body language, if for example he crosses his arms, doesn’t look at you or leans away from you all these signify disinterest and copying them would just create more negativity.

 7. Treat all men kindly. If you are in a party or a club treat any man that approaches you kindly even if you are not interested in him. Other men may be watching you and if they see you rolling your eyes or laughing cruelly at him with your friends it would scare them away from approaching you too. If you don't like a guy that comes up to you smile and thank them for their interest and find a way to politely signify your disinterest in them so that other men that you might like more may approach.

6. SMILE. Have fun. Show that you are having a good time. No man likes a wall flower or ice queen so laugh a lot, dance, as having a good time is attractive.

5. Listen to the guy attentively and give him your attention. Nod appropriately while he talks to show you are listening and use verbal nod like mm-hmm and yeah. Laugh happily at his jokes and make him feel like the wittiest man alive.

4. Men love compliments! Find something interesting or great about him and compliment him on it. For example, touch his biceps and say something like, "Wow, you have such strong arms, do you work out a lot?” or if he says something interesting "Wow, how do you know so much about such and such, you are so intelligent!". Remember that the compliments have to be sincere and you get extra points if it is something that is not obvious to every other eye!

3. When talking to him slowly stroke your glass up and down or circle its rim seductively. Alternatively you can use your middle finger to absentmindedly stroke your collar bone while chatting. This will make the man think of doing the same to you.

2. Ask him to fix something for you; nothing will make him feel more like a man. Even something as simple as changing a light bulb for you is good; tell him how hard you find it to do such things. And when he finishes fixing or doing something for you don't forget to say the killer line… "I don't know what I would do without you around."

1. Eye contact. Your eyes are your most important asset when it comes to flirting so use them to your best advantage. If you see someone you like in a crowded room, meet their gaze and hold eye contact for 2 seconds then slowly look away. If the guy maintains eye contact with you he may also be interested but if he quickly looks away then he probably isn’t. When talking to a man remember to maintain eye contact. However don’t just stare at his eyes the whole time his talking, sometimes look at his lips then back at his eyes or at his forehead and back. However don’t look down or around the room or at other people while he’ trying to talk to you as this shows disinterest.

So there you have it. My best tips that I’ve learnt along the way. If you want to become a real pro I suggest reading articles by Tracey Cox online or buying her book called Superflirt.