Four qualities that will make you attractive to most men

Back again to the Technique of the Love Affair. In this post I'll share what Ms Moore gave as the four qualities you need to attract almost any man.

1. Poise. This means that you need to be self confident and graceful; everything you do needs to be poised so don't laugh with too much abandon. Avoid clumsiness, brashness, hostility, arrogance and embarrassed self consciousness. When you are arguing or trying to prove a point don't become too heated or hostile and learn how to display your accomplishments without being too obvious or attention seeking. I guess a whole post dedicated to poise is in order.
2. Light-heartedness. You need to appear cheerful and airy without any hint of grief and dejection. Once a man is in love with you and invested in you its okay to share your troubles and sorrows with him but when you've just met a guy or have just gone out for a few dates it will be a turn off for him to constantly see you sad and depressed.
3. Smart dressing. Here is a rule to follow: the less your attire resembles men's clothes the more they like it. Also men can't really tell how expensive your clothes are or what label you are wearing, as long as you are dressed like most women he sees he will think you are in fashion; if you look a bit more lavish than them he will be proud of your smartness. Dressing very differently and originally from other women might make him uncomfortable as you become too striking and draw too much attention.
4. Flattery. Actually flattering a man can be a delicate science but its something one needs to learn as it goes a long way. In the book a few pointers are given in order to successfully flatter him. First of all you need to appear attentive to his conversation but don't be too eager as he might start thinking that he is such a brilliant conversationalist and is doing you a favour by talking to you. Also encourage him to talk about himself but only about light superficial things. In the early relationship stages don't try making him talk about his finances, previous failures, troubles e.t.c or you might end up offending him or worse, being relegated to 'friend' status where he talks about al his problems with you and doesn't see you as a love interest.  

• Secondly, be more complimentary in your speech than in your actions. If you are flattering him with both your words and actions he will see that you want him badly and he start losing interest. If you are cold towards him both in your words and actions he will feel  rejected and stop pursuing you. However when you compliment him with your words but are cold with your actions he gets enough encouragement to pursue you but enough anxiety to wonder whether you like him or not. So be extremely kind to him with your words (but don't profess any confessions of love or jealousy as this will make you lose your prestige) and cool with your actions. An example would be if he asks you out very last minute, you would thank him so much for the invitation but let him know that unfortunately you wouldn't be able to make it as you already have other plans.

• Thirdly you have to let a man excel in the things men are traditionally expected to excel in so that he can treat you chivalrously. Don't fight him in this. For example let him beat you at games, let him order for you at a restaurant, let him laugh at your politics and logic as each of your 'blunders' endear him to you. I Know many women will come up in arms over this but when you are at work you can and SHOULD display all your power and intelligence and ballsiness but when you get home hung up your power suit and let him be the man. Let him feel strong and courageous and generous. (speaking of generosity here is a final tip, men like to feel needed so ask them to do things for you as this makes them happy! that took me a while to get used to but they really do like it when you ask them to do things for you)

So there you have it: Poise of manner, Neatness of attire, Light heartedness and Flattery. These combined with the other assets that most women have like beauty, fame or wealth  can make you attractive to almost any man. THE END.